The Cycle of Despair
Disclaimer: I am not adept in psychology; hence, whatever is mentioned in this post is solely my opinion.
They say that no one likes interacting with a negative person. I find it draining myself, but if one is positive to everyone around them, who do they get to be negative towards? I will touch on this, a slightly personal topic, over here.
Do you ever feel exhausted hearing people complain all the time? Everyone does. It's nothing unusual. Negativity, much like other human emotions, is contagious. You may be compassionate and sympathetic, wanting to aid another fellow human by listening to them vent. However, this affects you in the long run. The first time you hear someone vent, you give them counsel, which is an excellent constructive exchange. However, the more this repeats, the more bothersome this gets, either because you would rather have a regular conversation for once or it just never seems to end. So you wonder what would happen if you stopped offering your service. Problem solved, right? Not really. Not only might this be against your temperament to just let someone you know agonise, but also, if everyone, like you, turned cold, the world would be very different.
As deep as you go into this, it is not what I wish to speak about here. I want to venture onto the other side of the same coin. What if you are the person who needs to shed their struggles? One might ask why this is required, but that has to do with you making your thoughts known. Even if no one concurs or if people think you are being overly dramatic, it feels good to get your ideas out of the confining space of your mind. By letting it out, you work towards handling it rather than letting it linger. That's wonderful but knowing the capricious nature of life and how punishing things can be, it is well known that people can go days or even months having strenuous thoughts. This obviously is not great for the people that surround you.
If you thought about it, if everyone in the world were open to listening to others and sharing their thoughts, negativity would envelop us all over time. So how do we solve this? I have pondered upon the same for a good while and have gotten suggestions from friends and family, but like all solutions to literally everything, none of them is perfect.
Some say it all boils down to your outlook on the problems. If you are motivated to solve them and have a positive outlook on life, that solves everything. This, as simple as it seems, is not so. We do not consider over here that you are bound to be displeased if something does not go your way. No matter how trained your mind is, this annoyance is not quickly resolved. You need to break this wall of irritation and discomfort yourself if you wish to have a positive outlook on your problems.
Then, we can turn a blind eye to them and face them head-on. The human mind is weird. No matter how good you are at overlooking things, your uneasiness lingers and, over time, starts bothering you.
Why not just converse with people who are willing to help? That's a great solution, but not everyone is the same with how they address issues. Some interactions help more than others. It can be due to the person having a similar thought process to yours or their skill of seeing problems rationally. As time goes on, you will tend to adhere to the counsel of a very few whenever you vent and then, once again, become a burden on their lives.
I decided to write this post because I always tend to overthink all my mild annoyances. While I have people around me I am grateful for, not only do I not wish to affect them adversely, but sometimes I just think about how preferable it is for me not to let my thoughts escape my mind and impact others. This has led me to train my mind to rectify all my difficulties. Over time, this has started to affect me, and I feel it's not because of my way of tackling obstacles but rather the fact that the cycle never ends.
With every situation, I ponder upon my difficulties, tackle and resolve them, and on comes another. And so on and on goes this cycle of despair.